How To Get A Man To Do What You Want.

This is written to all women. This is helpful for wives and husbands — but also with moms and sons. I don’t have a wife, but I can’t tell you how many “run-ins” with my mom could have been prevented had we used these ideas. These are generalizations that Mark Gungor made (most are sarcastic – but make great points!). I’ll say that again: these are generalizations.

How To Get A Man to Do What You Want:

Tell him what you want. Duh. Men don’t have ESP. You have to tell them! This seems like a “duh” — but it does not go without saying. Don’t forget to tell a guy what you want!

Ask him more than once. Yes – you do need to ask more than once. Of course women need to ask more than once – men don’t want to do stuff. Men can see dirty dishes, dirty laundry, and full trash bags — WE JUST DON’T CARE! Women that ask once and then have hissy fits about lazy men are ruining relationships — just ask again! That’s all the simpler it is. This can often be misconstrued as nagging. Asking multiple times doesn’t turn into nagging until you add “attitude.” Multiple asking WITH attitude is called nagging. Also, women need to understand that if they ask a man to do something while he is in one of his “boxes” he probably won’t hear you. He’s not ignoring you – his brain doesn’t work like yours. The man’s brain can only focus on one thing at a time – and he does it more deeply than a woman (typically). If he’s thinking about something else when you ask him, he probably won’t hear a thing. Just ask him again.

Ask him the right way. A man (yes, even young men — teen guys) wants to be respected. The worst thing you could do is to insult him with disrespect, “What?! Can’t you pick up the laundry?!” That disrespects him — and you’ll never get what you want that way. It would be his nature to not do it just to prove that he’s in charge and deserves respect. (Yea, guys are that stupid).

Train him with positive reinforcement. Appreciate the pathetic things he does! Women tend to only appreciate the UNEXPECTED kindness — like flowers. Appreciate the pathetic things — like putting away the dishes (he’s doing it to try to impress you with even that!). That’s training him with positive reinforcement, just like you would an ape. (Did I just equate men with apes?)

Barter With Him. Try this . . . “If you want to __________, go clean the garage.” Yes, guys are that stupid and lazy. Barter with us. But you may say, “Oh but that’s not unconditional love. I want to love him unconditionally.” Unconditional love requires a conditional relationship!